So. 18. The big one.
Words are inadequate to explain how humbling the process of watching you grow has been.
Young man, Kingdom giant, Kingdom General! Who am I?
I will remind you of all you need to know son, not because I don’t trust you, but because we all need reminders when life starts to ask us it’s confusing questions..because ask you it will.
Know whose you are son, always. You are the son of the King. He is always responsible for you and will NEVER let you fall out of his grasp. Once your spirit and mind gets a hold of this revelation, nothing can stop you. Nothing. Let this love be the fuel, the power for your life.
Wear this love as your all purpose garment, in everything.
Son, diligence pays. Hard work pays( because we haven’t raised you to be entitled) but smart work even better. Don’t let anyone convince you of otherwise. Get-rich-quick schemes are get-poor-quick schemes as well. We had so many of them in my own growing up days and they have been recycled in your time I’m sure, but allow me to save you the heartache of falling into the trap!
Your brain is a precious resource, and I admonish you to use it to the full, but your mind and spirit are even more! Stay in the mind Christ has given you and the answers the world is looking for, to questions they haven’t even asked are within you! Don’t ever doubt yourself, because you have too much to give to live in any kind of doubt.
Son, guard your heart. Be jealous of the company you keep. Be jealous for what you read, what you watch, what you listen to. This world has soooo many different suggestions, suggestions which they coyly present as fact or truth, to unsuspecting people. Know your foundation, and refer back to it often. Grace is the only ocean you can drown in AND still live! So drown in grace! That’s life!
Girls! Girls! Girls! They are the most beautiful creatures this earth will ever provide. They are also the most corrupted..and corruptible.
As such, you must look at and think of them as your sisters. Once you have this as your primary thought, you will have no problems treating them with honor and dignity. A lot of men don’t understand that women are God’s daughters..and should be treated with consideration. But you are different.
So, no sowing of wild oats. No sir. Your body, beautiful as it is, is not meant to be given to everyone at the whim of flimsy emotions. We are ALL(man and woman) called to a life of purity! You are not your emotions, your emotions should not control you, because they belong to you and not you to them. There is more to life than just getting in a girl’s pants, because after that, what next?
That’s why you are different. Relish your difference, it is more relevant than going with the ‘normal.’
And no heartbreaks. Fine boy does not equal heartbreaker. Hearts are fragile son..if a woman gives you her heart, treasure it. Treasure it because it’s a sign of pure unadulterated trust..it is a gift to be savored, not an opportunity to feel entitled. There is so much pain in this world. Don’t add your quota.
The love of money is a slave. So is power, ambition, sex.
But you are a bondservant already to something else, someone else! Never forget this, and don’t forget that you can be ‘slave’ to one thing at a time. Don’t pay attention to ideologies that talk about ‘freedom’ as removal from responsibility or freedom to do whatever we want.
This is not a popular opinion but behind this so called ‘freedom’ is bondage. You see, we were created for a purpose. That automatically bonds us to that purpose..it is in that purpose that we find our freedom.
Stay in your freedom son. Don’t buy the freedom this world offers. It’s too expensive.
I remember when you told your father you would be married at 23. I laughed so hard because that’s so early!
But later, when I thought about it a bit more, I’m like why not? Why wouldn’t you, anyway? The love and beauty you have clearly seen between your dad and I Is of God only and therefore exemplary by his grace only. Marriage- between a man and a woman, is noble.
So, when you get married, and I can’t wait, know that just as your father has loved me to this day with the love Christ has for his church, the way he still adores me and looks at me as though he only just saw me, as though I’m the most beautiful girl in the world, the way he has cradled my dreams and ideas and pushed and helped me birth things I never thought possible..know you are called to this also. You must purpose in your heart that as you chose her, she stays as your chosen, your beloved. All of her. That you never lose your wonder for her. That her body is your home, your comfort, your haven. That you drink only from your own cistern. Be kind to her. Be kind to her, my love. Kindness is so underrated..so understated, but a good woman will do anything for you if you are kind to her.
Let her mind be your sounding board. You didn’t marry a trophy wife, so let her bless your life with the wholeness of the Christ-person she came into the marriage with. Love her beyond reason, as Jesus has loved you beyond reason. Its the only way that your marriage will work.
And when you are fruitful and have your sons and daughters, this legacy continues.
Because your wife is your good thing. What you call her is what she is. So you must constantly speak to her, great and wondrous things, because as her head, that’s what she will be.
Be kind to the elderly, always. Sometimes we forget that we will grow older..but our elders have a pivotal role to play in our lives. You were literally raised by the ‘village’ I had in my life at the time, and I’m grateful for all of the older Christian ladies and gents, in addition to your precious grandparents who gave your father and I soft landing.
Let your life be given to service. In church, at work, wherever you find yourself, serve as unto the Lord: therein lies your eternal rewards. Use your salvation! It’s a priceless precious privilege that nothing can ever purchase!
Know that you are greatness..that the things inside of you though bigger than you are still inside of you! You are world influencer, a king maker. Stay true to who you are, always. Know that you are always an answer wherever you are, as you have constantly been to us.
Dance, stand in the rain! Stand when it’s all crashing down. Stand! Live! Be present! Never settle for less! Laugh! Love! And know that I’m here, to hold your hand and dance in the rain with you if need be.
Happy birthday my heart!